I’ve never been big on magazine subscriptions, but this year I decided to give it a shot. The only magazine I would normally read was Essence, but lately their issues just haven’t been catching my attention (yet I still keep my subscription.) So in an attempt to switch things up, I decided to also subscribe to a year of Marie Claire. And so far, I’ve been loving every issue.
Normally, I would have been in my “pro black” moment complaining about the lack of diversity, lack of models of color, as well as different sizes, on the pages of MC (Marie Claire,) but even though the magazine may often appear geared towards a “particular” audience, it still has some great articles and tips. But out of all the articles I’ve from the issues that have come out in the past few months, I must say the Love and Race series in the April 2012 issue is very interesting.
I’m pretty sure the title of the article online gives you an idea of what it’s about, interracial dating. The staff of MC decided to embark on a three-part series to explore interracial dating and mating in our society. They wanted to get the inside scoop of what it’s like for some readers who felt confined to just dating within their race, but then decided to feel liberated and try something “new.” While some of the stories discussed dating White men, I still felt as though it was a great story. Yet on one blog I read, this Black woman was complaining how appalled she was by the articles and stories of a Black woman, a Mexican-American woman, and Indian woman who let go of their shame and went for the “best” in the bloggers perspective, White men. That wasn’t what Marie Claire was trying to advocate, but I guess this blogger had her own opinion.
The woman’s blog post I read was interesting, but I still kind of disagreed with her. The MC issue was basically showing a few examples of women who were so ashamed to go against their parents’ tradition (even dating someone in their race, yet had nothing in common) and actually embrace the concept of dating outside their race. Then of course, there was a story by a MC contributor who is Black, and she voiced her thoughts on the Black Dating “Crisis” and how she is happily dating a successful Black man, no kids, no drama, and he isn’t a “thug.” I liked the fact she voiced her thoughts on the reality there isn’t a crisis, but I just honestly think race shouldn’t play a factor in dating at all.
When it comes to the concept of interracial dating, I’m all for it. Honestly, race shouldn’t even be an issue when it comes to matters of the heart. I’ve been the type of woman that has dated Black men, Latino men, biracial, and even gone on some dates with White men, but nothing panned out because of personality clashes, not because of race. Right now I’m dating a Puerto Rican guy, and I didn’t decide to date him because of his race, but because of his values as a man, his amazing personality, our riveting intellectual conversations, and our great connection. He could have been any race and I still would have dated him, because he’s a great guy and that goes beyond the fact he is Puerto Rican.
Love should be a journey of meeting people from a variety of backgrounds and unique cultures. That, in my opinion, is what makes the journey of dating and mating so beautiful. Breaking down the social barriers and the stigma of what some traditional parents may think, and finding your own happiness. A lot of the women in the Marie Claire article were ashamed of dating outside of their race due to the feedback or disapproval of their traditional parents, but if you really love your child and want them to be happy, then I don’t think you should try to limit them to dating with the same race. Luckily for me, my parents never cared who my brother and I dated, as we were being treated right and were ultimately happy.
At the end of the day, true love and happiness is more important then the pigmentation of skin.
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com