On one particular evening in 2010, I found myself glued to the Sundance Channel watching some documentary called Catfish. I had never heard of it before, but after glaring at the description for a few moments — I decided to watch the entire film.
If you never watched the film, then it’s worth checking out, especially if you’re curious about the new MTV series Catfish: The Tv Show. Basically this guy named Nev ends up falling for a girl online, and he learns that her little sister is an amazing artists. As he builds up a relationship with this striking woman via Facebook, phone calls, and texting, his brother films the entire process. But at a certain point, the time comes to actually take a journey and meet the girl of his dreams…but she isn’t the beautiful sex pistol with a huge social life and a heart for Nev. Nope, it’s an older woman with kids, scraggly hair, and an awkward personality. Yeah, he was majorly blindsided.
Have you ever gone through anything like that? Maybe you have, maybe you haven’t…but I have. In my adventures of online dating and making friends online ever since the coolness of Myspace, I’ve had my fair share of lies. The lies about their “lives” varied each time. And one time the guy looked nothing like his pictures at all. Instead of being this light skin hottie with a bright smile, he was this dark skin (I didn’t mind, but don’t lie about your complexion) tall guy with messed up teeth, a horrible smile, and a life that was a scam. Yet, I dated him for two weeks, then dumped him. Guess I was lonely and used him for company. Haha, I’m not perfect either.
I’ve been through it so many times. Even falling in love with a guy, meeting in person, dating for three weeks, allowing myself to be madly in love, and then realizing his name was a lie, his education, where he lived, his car situation, his family, and realizing he had fake Facebook profiles and a girlfriend. Yeah, never letting myself trust that hardcore again. Well, I trust some people, but it’s going to take time. All these men I’ve met offline and have built friendships with, even relationships, end up being married, have girlfriends, or just scumbags. Online dating and interactions have become some polluted by fakes, that it is hard to find true folks; even some go to extreme to make their life seem so real on Google. Guess you never know.
I’m not perfect, but never have I lied about my life or my looks. As many pictures as I take and I have Skype and my life is basically on the web via this blog, it would be pretty hard to make up stories; my life is cool, why hide it? But some people, for whatever reasons, build online connections with people under false pretenses. And the show Catfish is all about that.
The first episode of the show followed a girl named sunny who had a 8 month online relationship with a model, but Nev slowly unraveled the truth and took her to meet her beau. But come to find out, it ended up being this overweight vindictive girl who was bullied in HS and decided to start getting back to strangers. She never even met the guy she claimed to be, but had made a profile for him and everything. Horrible, right? But I did enjoy the drama and intrigue, and it’s safe to say we can expect more of that from this Catfish TV Show.
So, did you watch the first episode? Has it ever happened to you? I will admit, I’ve had a lot of bad encounters, but I’ve good as well. This year I met a guy I had known for 2 years online, but we had at least Skyped, text, and talked on the phone. And you know what, it was awesome meeting in NYC. We are still great friends and we both were telling the truth about ourselves. So in the midst of the bad, their can still be some good, and hopefully Catfish will have a few stories that end up good. Guess we will have to wait and see until next week!
Oh and if you’re wondering have I learned my lesson? Yes. Even though I have an Okcupid account, I doubt I will end up meeting anybody soon. I rather date and mingle in the club or a bar rather than online, but I guess it doesn’t hurt to have a profile up.
I always told myself that one day I’d go see Steve Aoki live, and my brain would almost explode from the hardcore electro beats ripping through my body. Quite the imagery, but essentially it sounds pretty effin amazing!
If you know anything about Steve Aoki, the founder of Dim Mak Records, then you know that a majority of his music is hardcore electro. Listening to his music on full blast is like having rounds from a machine gun being fired at you (watch the video below “Brrrat!” to see this imagery in action), except of course not as deadly. You won’t die of course, but you’ll be feeling a little sore & insane after hearing all the hardcore beats hitting every inch of your body. But it’s okay, because I’m pretty sure that’s what Steve Aoki expect; releasing tracks that are hardcore electro are bound to be a sign of his message. He wants you to party your ass off & go crazy with every single beat.
When I’m not in the mood to chill out & take it easy, then hell yeah I’m blasting Steve Aoki. I’ll even through in drum & bass to make the mix even more insane. But I don’t think I’d put Steve Aoki’s new song with Lovefoxx in the mix. Have you guys heard it? Perhaps if you sit on a spin bike for hour like I do everyday and stare at a 47inch television, then you’re bound to flip to MTV and watch music videos. So that’s exactly what I did yesterday. As I was sitting there spinning and drenched with sweat, I saw a premiere of Steve Aoki’s new video “Heartbreaker” featuring Lovefoxx.
Now some people out there hate his new song, but I don’t hate it. It’s just…well, different. It’s not the Steve Aoki I’m used to listening to & going crazy over, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad track. Just different vibe. More mellow. More commercial. Less Steve Aoki. That insane quality that makes Steve Aoki’s music so hypnotic and hardcore is missing, but I guess every once and a while DJ’s & producers have to switch it up. At least it’s still a good song, but I will admit I sure do hope he produces some more tracks that have that Dim Mak quality; hardcore electro beats punching every inch of your body. Yeah, I need more of that in my life…
“Heartbreaker” feat. Lovefoxx
Still a good song, and I guess the “dripping dripping dripping” part when the Asian guy’s head explodes is suppose to be that hardcore aspect. lol
Below are two songs that are what I’m used to hearing from Steve Aoki. A little darker, a little harder, a little more insane.
Brrrat! ft. Armand Van Helden
Element of Danger (MSTRKRFT REMIX) ft. Steve Aoki & Har Mar Superstar
Used to listen to this song every single day. Very epic!
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
I always make sure that I never miss an episode of MTV’s True Life. I actually have my DVR set to record old & new episodes just so I don’t miss anything. True Life always has some very interesting topics they cover, and it’s nice to get a glimpse into someone’s lifestyle.
Every episode usually covers an interesting topic, but last night was a new episode that followed two men who are self-proclaimed chubby chasers. Pause. Really? Like when I first read the description I was taken aback. I’ve heard of how popular the Bear community is, but I was a little caught off guard by this Black guy from Harlem who only dates overweight women because they tend to be nicer & have less drama. Wow, how ignorant can you be?
I guess the best place to start in addressing last night’s episode is to discuss what bears are. Basically in the gay community there is a sub-culture of chasers (typically skinny men) who chase after bears (overweight men with body hair) The chasers prefer to be with a bear because they feel protected, but the bigger the guy is weight wise, the more turned on the men get. So when you hear “bigger is better” in the bear community, they are referring to mass & overall weight.
It wasn’t my first time hearing about bears, but I couldn’t believe that the guy actually didn’t want his boyfriend to lose weight, even if it meant a variety of health problems. He was actually a little disappointed that his boyfriend would have to lose weight and couldn’t remain as heavy as he was. But in the end he realized that his health was more important, so he could lose a little weight but still needed to be heavy. The heavier he was and the bigger his belly turned him on. Um….yeah….weird….
I guess everyone has their preferences, but why would you want to date someone that big who is risking their health? I’ve never in my life dated someone that was obese. I couldn’t date someone who didn’t work out and take care of themselves; might as well walk away, because I’m just not down for an unhealthy lifestyle. I work out 5 to 6 days a week, I monitor what I eat, and I always make sure I’m active. If I’m not at the gym running, then I’m on my $200 spin bike in my room sweating up a storm. Staying active is a passion of mine, and I’m not even where I want to be yet. Still got a lot more hardcore cardio to do.
There is a difference between being chubby & overweight. Chubby is just like a little fat here & there, but overweight/obese is like a serious issue that has many health risks. Yet there are folks out there who date people just because of their size, kind of like the other guy profiled on last night’s episode. I mentioned him earlier in this post. Basically he’s this Black guy from Harlem who prefers dating overweight & big girls because they don’t come with drama, they are nice, and he finds them sexy. That’s just ignorant stereotyping. Not all big girls are nice & come without drama. Some big girls can be fake & bitches just like skinny chicks.
But I guess he did find that out on last night’s episode with this big girl (she was not cute at all & her voice irritated the hell out of me, so dumb & ditzy) named Ashley he was dating. She did porn in order to pay her bills and was preaching how she was independent & crap. Oh, shut up! They got into an argument, she slapped him a few times, and then walked off. The guy flew back to New York (she lived in Los Angeles) and decided not to talk to Ashley again, but still only date big girls. Wow, can you say low self-esteem? Dating big girls just to make yourself feel better.
Sadly enough I’ve met a few losers that prefer dating overweight & “big girls” because they come with less drama, they know how to treat a man, and they know how to cook. I’m serious, guys have actually told me this. They have this fat fetish for women that are fat. Not only is it a stereotypical approach involved, but they also are extremely turned on by fat women. It’s a fat fetishism.Some guys didn’t want to date me because I wasn’t big (thank God I’m average with curves,) but I’m glad they didn’t want to date me. I couldn’t date a man that ignorant to prey on big women just because of a stereotype he has. I especially couldn’t date a feeder. Ewww. Guys that just constantly want you to eat & get bigger (yeah, some sick dudes out there.)Date someone for what you learn about them, not because they are big so right off the back you assume certain things about their character.
Chubby chasers & the bear community are just very interesting. I don’t think the bear community necessarily has to deal with a stereotype of what a big man can do for them, but rather it’s just a sexual preference. Somehow they get really turned on by all that body fat. But as far as men, like the guy on True Life, they date big women because their internal insecurity and these ignorant stereotypes they have of big women. That’s just a hot mess. And the sad thing is I know a few guys like that, but that also explains why I don’t talk to them that much. It’s just sad how they chase these big women only based on a stereotype. SMH….get some balls and a self-esteem, maybe then you could actually learn how to relate to women and not prey on girls that might also have low self-esteem issues.
If you want to know more about this True Life episode & fat fetishism, then feel free to go watch the entire episode on MTV’s website. Click here.
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
The only time I ever watch MTV2 is when I’m in search of music videos or random programming that makes no sense. Seriously, some of the shows on MTV evoke a major WTF? I mean come on now, Parental Control? That show is just so stupid! The only good thing about it is I guess a few good laughs here and there, but even then I’d much prefer True Life. That is my show! The best show MTV has ever produced. That is until they introduced a hot new show called Guy Code.
When it comes to MTV’s programming and television shows there are only a few shows I really like. I love Made, True Life, Friendzone, and now I love Guy Code. Friendzone is a show that MTV introduced in the past few months and basically it’s people trying to get out of the friend zone and telling their friend how much they care about them. It’s a pretty interesting show, and it catches my attention because I’ve never been in that zone. I’m usually putting a guy in a friend zone or I just straight up tell him that I like him, so yeah, what’s up? Haha, I’m pretty blunt when it comes to my emotions.
Being in the friend zone can suck, but one thing I hate is when a guy doesn’t know the “code.” You know females we have protocols aka codes that we abide by in order to make the right impression, be a lady, and remain calm under pressure or under the glance of an attractive man. You don’t ever want to look uncool or just desperate. There is an art to every social action. Well, that same principle of codes applies to men as well. Men have certain things they know to do and not to do in order to remain “cool” and not appear like a psycho or lame.
MTV2′s Guy Code is a basically a show that discusses the codes/rules. Whats acceptable and what isn’t. When drinking becomes embarrassing and the amount of back hair that is acceptable. There are just certain things that men should & need to know in order to live a fulfilled life that is copacetic amongst their bros and the ladies. I mean it’s not like every code on the show should be followed, but the commentary provided is so hilarious! Even if you don’t like the codes you can at least crack up at the insight of comedians, celebrities, and other pop culture commentators.
I never had a reason to really watch MTV2 until seeing three episodes of Guy Code. It’s definitely going to be a show that I won’t be missing. It’s just super funny! But even if I do miss an episode, I can always go to MTV.com and watch full episodes and hilarious clips.
So if you haven’t seen Guy Code, then head on over to the site and learn some of the codes. While you’re at it, head over to http://www.brotips.com/ Now that is one hilarious website! It’s filled with a bunch of tips that are totally worth passing around. Bros need to stick together and share the tips. Haha, so go check it out! But most importantly, take everything in with a grain of salt and remember, dude don’t be that guy….You know, that guy.
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com