Good morning! I hope that everyone had a fabulous weekend. Do anything major exciting? Well, I didn’t. My weekend consisted of late night gym sessions, listening to house music, and watching Lethal Weapon. A great weekend in my book. Oh, and in the midst of my random chilling, I had over a dozen messages on OkCupid. That’s right, I have an online dating profile.
For starters, meeting men isn’t really that hard to do. I’m always meeting guys in person, when I’m house dancing, and yes online via social networks and dating sites such as OkCupid. I’ve been off and on OkCupid for years, and it’s gotten to the point where I don’t even take it serious. I mean, yes I do make sure I have my best pictures up and my profile is written true to who I am, but when it comes to meeting guys…I never take it so serious.
For instance, I have a date tonight with this guy I’ve been talking to for a week, (random fact: he’s into cosplay,) but I’m not sitting here stressing over whether or not it will be my next relationship; relationships aren’t really for me, I prefer casual dating. Luckily, he’s on the same page, so I shall get coffee, finally see Iron Man 3, and perhaps make yet another male friend; majority of my friends are guys.
On OkCupid, out of all the messages I get bombarded with on a daily basis consisting of the usual “you’re so beautiful” or “wow, you’re so sexy and tall,” it’s rare to actually find someone who catches my interest beyond flattery. Yes, I welcome the compliments (I receive online and in person,) but it takes more than jamming compliments down my throat to actively get to know me.
At least say you love house music…you’ll score some points.
As a 22-year-old fresh out of college and living in the Washington, DC metropolitan, I’ve got lots of options when it comes to men. Age range is quite open, considering I tend to hang out with a lot of folks in their late twenties and mid thirties. But I suppose since OkCupid is essentially free, I have it up there for the illusive grand idea that one day someone could message me and we could maybe actually hit it off…not just hit and quit it like most of the guys seem to want nowadays.
The one thing that strikes me about online dating is the fact that people just don’t seem to really try anymore. But then again, should you have to try at dating and being nice? It should be natural, well at least, for me it’s natural. But seeing some of the ways guys harass me until I write them back (I’m a very selective replier) or start off with nice conversation, then ask me to come over their house for a drink (really, come on…really,) I’ve come to the conclusion that a lot of men on OkCupid don’t know how to approach a beautiful woman.
But I can’t just blame the men, I blame the women too. Somewhere in the chaos of OkCupid and messaging random women online, some of these men must have encountered women that were actually okay with going to a random guy’s house and hooking up for sex right off the back. How do I know? I’ve met females who have done that. Dangerous? Yes. And does it lower the standard? Yes, it absolutely does.
Just the other night I had this fairly nice looking Latino guy (I often tend to date Latin men and other races,) spend 20 minutes discussing house music and the UK. By far it was great conversation, but then he decided to start asking me out for a drink. He said, “There is no way I could let a woman as sexy as you get by this evening without having a drink with me.” Decent attempt, but I wasn’t in the mood. So I let him know I just didn’t feel like going out with him. He then said, “We don’t have to go out, come over my house I’ve got wine. I’d love to have a sexy woman like yourself over right now.” Wow, nice job at being subtle. After going back and forth for a few minutes and me telling him off that I’m not stupid enough to go to some random guy’s house, all he could say was “I’m not random, we’ve chatted 30 minutes…we are friends now lol.” Ignored him, moved on.
Some men who aren’t mature enough to realize that each woman has different standards, take their past experiences/interactions with women who easily put out or are overly sexualized, and distribute this ideology to women like myself. Thus, the messages I get and the lame attempts at persuading me to hook up are simply just something they’ve come way too familiar with, and somewhere down the line one (or maybe a few) women said it was okay. Well for me, it’s NOT.
Now, you may be saying to yourself “if it’s so negative, then why do you stay on the site?” Well, I suppose somewhere down the line it’s become just another social media website instead of something I use for active dating. I mingle with guys, and sometimes I get messages from men who actually are artistic and catch my eye, leading to a date and a decent friendship. So in the same way that these men just don’t take it serious anymore and just want to get a quick fix, I do the same; my fix isn’t sex, it’s finding suitable artsy/intellectual conversation.
Words turn me on like crazy, and if we’re talking about house…then I’m all ears.
Stay tuned for more of my OkCupid rantings and ramblings. Have your own? Feel free to share!
Being released exclusively W&O Street Tracks, “Hold Up (Yeah You)” is yet another delicious banger from the UK based house duo. In the tradition of making the classic house vibes a modern day essential, this track is the quintessential balance of old school bass (think 90s club anthems,) vocals, and a fresh production quality.
Give it a spin below. Do you need this track in your life? Yes…you do.
OUT on MAY 29th
Everyone who knows me (personally and online) is aware that I’m a huge fan of Wonder Woman. Out of the things I’m obssessed with (house music and coffee,) my love for Wonder Woman is something that I doubt will ever go away. I’ve been a fan since I was a little girl. My mom showed me the series with Lynda Carter, the original comics, and always celebrated my height, so since then, considering I’m 6ft tall, I’ve always admired the Amazon.
Wonder Woman is the epitome of awesome. And yesterday I spent a few hours watching The Justice League animated series on Netflix and was just reminded how great she is. With that being in mind, I’d love to share with you some of my favorite Wonder Woman covers and illustrations. Interestingly enough, I have yet to draw my own depiction of her, but if I did it would be cool to make her brown skin. But I’m saving that “ethnic” touch for my cosplay as Wonder Woman. Stay tuned for that…
Enjoy the pictures! If you want to talk more about Wonder Woman, feel free to rant away or hit me up on Twitter @thinksoul25 or Facebook @ www.facebook.com/Jazei25
I’ve yet to visit Australia, but one thing that seems clear is that they’ve got the indie pop & electronic scene on lockdown! Time and time again I’m falling in love with bands such as Empire of The Sun, Little Red, Strange Talk, and other phenomenal artists. There are so many great bands from that region of the world, and one band you really ought to check out is the New Gods.
Hailing from Melbourne, this five-piece band has a nostalgic psychedlic sound and their new music video “Klipse” is a visual representation of surf-like/hippie vibes.
Check out the official music video below and be sure to LIKE New Gods on their official Facebook page.
He’s a French guy living in Spain, but another thing you should know about Sebb Aston is that he’s also a Deep House/House producer.
With steady years of production behind him, Aston is starting to gain more recognition and has released his EP sampler for his new release, Just A Dream.
If you love deep house, then you’ll surely groove to his tracks “Just A Dream” and “”Ain’t No Miracles.”
Give the EP sampler a listen and if you love what you’re hearing, pick up the release on Maestrilab Records.
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Deep, soulful, deep, deep, and yes, deep. Russian house duo, Going Deeper, has released a superb April 2013 mix for Spirit Soul’s Mix Archive. It’s superb! Oh wait, did I already say that? Well, I’ll say it again because this mix truly rocks the house!
This deep house mix is spectacular and it can be yours for free by simply liking Going Deeper’s Facebook Page. Sadly, there isn’t a tracklist, but leave it up to soundcloud users to leave comments and ID the tracks for us.
Listen below. Eargasm guaranteed.
Here is the first track from the mix. Loving it!
I’m in such a house mood today (well, everyday.) But today, for some particular reason, I’m really amped up. Perhaps because I found out about House Dance International 2013 taking place May 24th-26th in NYC and now that I’m back on the East Coast, I plan on going; no excuse not to. I love house, house dancing, and the vibrant community.
In the spirit of house music and the community, I’d like to share with you some of my favorite classic house tracks that you really should know, appreciate, and pass along to other house junkies. Those who grew up in the early days of house will probably know most of these classics; for some it will be an introduction to the classics.
So sit back, relax, and enjoy this time machine of classic house. Got any favorites to add to the list?
Oh, and there are so many classics. So I will be sharing some every Monday. And on Twitter be sure to join the movement #HOUSENATION
This song never gets old. Love the video too!
First heard this song when I was 15 and used to sing it to myself walking down the halls of school.
Tribal vibes! A few DJs have played this song and I’ve gone crazy on the dancefloor. Tribalism!