Every time I meet someone new I’m constantly reminded how explosive my personality is. I don’t mean like explosive in a bad way, but many have said my personality is just so vibrant, sort of like a beautiful spontaneous combustion. Never have I been one to shy away from hiding my emotions, my thoughts, or my quirky antics. Unless I’m in a professional environment conducting myself as a mature woman, then most likely I’ve got an aura of awesome wit.
I have those moments in which I enjoy being alone, but I’m far from being an introvert. My attitude and approach to life is so uninhibited, I just can’t be alone for too long. When I mention being alone, I’m referring to the context of an overall vibe of gloomy sadness that can overwhelm the mind. The type of being alone that is emotionally unhealthy. If you’re going to be alone, then it should be a healthy approach and not a pity party. I may be extremely busy with school, but I’m still surrounded by my family and hang out with folks when we can actually coordinate time to kick it. Being in a state of solitude for too long frustrates me, especially if I don’t have access to some form of social communication.
Being alone just makes my life dull. I feel as though I have this pretty radical outgoing personality, and it’s not cool to keep it cooped up in the house too long. Yet I keep working on myself and becoming the best I can be, so when I do go ahead and rock life to the fullest I won’t have any regrets. I’ll feel fabulous and be ready to tackle any challenge that comes my way! I already feel pretty complete when it comes to knowing who I am as a woman and I never hold back on my thoughts, but I’m still a work in process when it comes to formulating my style/look. It wouldn’t be a moment of transition if I didn’t tackle my looks and discover what I think makes me look and feel my best!
Losing weight has been pretty cool so far and I’ve dropped a total of 15lbs in the past 2 months. I realized that it’s not going to be drastic weight loss like you see from celebrities who probably lie about their methods or work out 8 hours a day, but it’s steady weight loss that is realistic. I have an idea of the way I see my body, so I’m working on it. Basically I’m on this transitional phase of life. I’m not quite where I’d like to be yet, but I’m putting things in place for when that day comes. Once I turn 21 in April, graduate college, and get a job to afford a lifestyle of living on my own, paying bills, and of course going out and about, then I will be out of this transitional phase.
Life is filled with varying moments of transition, but that just means you’re actually doing something right; you’re living a realistic life that isn’t stagnant. Dull moments and stagnant phases are something I rarely have, and if I sense it attempting to creep this way then I change the pace and avoid it. Being an emotionally whole human being is about making the best of life, and using moments of transition to stay on track to making your dreams come true. Don’t ever settle for being complacent, and don’t settle for second best.
Whatever you want to achieve in life, then get up and go for it. I’m not saying it’s going to be an easy road, but you can work your way down the highway of transition until you reach your exit. Just make sure you’re at least cruising on that highway and not just sitting in a parked car in the shoulder lane. If you look up and somehow find yourself shifting back and forth between positions, then wake up, smell the coffee, and get back on that highway of transition; you might have a few exits to take, but eventually you’ll reach the right exit that is a dream fulfilled.
One of my favorite songs below. This song may not be talking about transition, but it is a powerful song filled with so many moments….
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
The greatest thing about being 20 years old is the ability to admit I don’t know everything, and I’m still on a abstract exploration of life. Even though I can’t wait to be 21 and be able to finally enjoy all the great house music venues and legally order a drink, I still celebrate being young. I feel like I’m in this amazing place in life; a spot that needs to be cherished and not rushed. I’m in my last year of college and I’m so close to finally reaching that transition into working professional instead of struggling student. Everything I want to explore and see is just right around the corner.
I have a lot of things I plan on exploring and accomplishing and I’m loving the journey thus far. Even though a lot of people call me an “old soul,” it doesn’t mean I’m ready to just sit still, hunker down into a relationship, and start planning out what I will name my first kid. I mean, yes, I do have some names in mind, but I don’t plan on having any kids for a long time (another 5 years at minimum.) Throwing kids and the idea of marriage into the picture before 25 years old freaks me out! I enjoy the freedom of just casual dating, no pressure, and just being able to focus on me without crazy amounts of additional pressure.
Being young is that magical time in a human’s lifespan in which we find ourselves. It’s a moment in life where we get to have new experiences, new pains, new joys, new journeys, and even the unexpected magical encounters. I’m not saying it’s impossible to find true love when you’re young, but also young love can change like the wind. One day that person is your entire life, then the next day you graduate from college and decided to go after your dreams for a job in another city. Or perhaps, you grow apart from that person and aren’t the same when you met. There is nothing wrong with moving on; it’s expected.
That moving on and unrelenting freedom is kind of what makes the journey of mingling such a thrill. You never know what is going to happen or who you might meet, but there isn’t a great deal of pressure involved. Well, personally speaking, I just don’t put that pressure on it. I want that time to keep finding myself, going on dates with different men, and seeing where life takes me. With my continuous journey and dating (I mean I couldn’t imagine not going on dates, I love men) I do know that eventually I’ll meet a guy that will be the right one for me and I will be right for him. But I can’t just sit around and hope my dream man shows up on my doorstops; I’ve got to be realistic and have an active dating life, especially since I’m young, well-educated, and single. I always tell people not to worry about finding love and continue to journey; then when you do find a love, you might realize that you are still young, naive, and on a journey finding those in-betweens…
That last sentence I just mentioned comes from New Zealand band The Naked and Famous. They have this amazing song called “Young Blood” and it truly captures that vibe of being young and on a journey in love & life. I heard it while watching HGTV and seeing a commercial for a show I watch called Property Brothers. I first thought the song was by Passion Pit, but then I did a quick Google search and learned it was by NZ band The Naked and Famous. I’m not sure what it is about New Zealand, but they pump out a lot of cool music!
The band does have that Passion Pit vibe, but their song “Young Blood” is one that has a magical and uplifting message that truly explains young love. I been listening to this song on repeat and I think it can sum up a majority of my “love” experiences so far; it’s all a fun learning lesson that I can one day look back on and be thankful that all the paths eventually lead me to the true Mr. Right. But for now, I truly celebrate being young, single, no attachment, and anxious to zoom through my last year of college into a life filled with a career, bills, partying, traveling, and more dating!
The video is so beautiful!
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
I’ve spent a majority of my life moving around, meeting new people, and moving again. I’ve never really stayed in one place too long without having an inkling desire to relocate; which is why I’m known as an “urban nomad.” But now that I’m back in Maryland and in my last year of college, I feel like I want to at least sit still for a year or two at the most.
Moving is what I do! Yet I know that once I graduate I will get a job, move out on my own, and at least learn how to be stable for a moment. It’s not really a scary thought, but it is a reality that I’m beginning to see. I love to travel and see the world, but it doesn’t mean I have to move to every place I visit. It’s perfectly okay to have a great job, my own apartment, a few friends, a man, and travel on the weekends. I don’t have to always be a nomad on my own; that sounds dangerous in some cases. Just traveling the world all by myself, sounds exciting yet lonely and scary. So I know that after I graduate in Summer 2012, I want to have my life look a lot different. More long-lasting friendships, maybe a relationship, and of course a lot of travel on the weekends, but not by myself.
I may not have a bunch of true friends right now, but I’d never be so desperate to go find them on Craigslist. Since I’ve moved around so much, I have used Craigslist a lot. From my family buying cars, selling cars, selling items, finding jobs online, and even finding writing gigs; Craigslist has been the source for a lot of great things. A majority of the writing gigs I have found have been posted on Craigslist and a lot of the apartments we have lived in were Craigslist finds. I know that a lot of people use Craigslist for various reasons, but I never knew people actually searched for just friendship on Craigslist.
Of course you’ve got sexual encounters and other weird meet-ups, but there are real people out there that use Craigslist to find platonic friendships. I didn’t know any of this until about an hour ago. I was on Craigslist looking for some writing gigs, and for the first time ever I noticed something I had never seen before; Craigslist tv. I have seen a documentary about a guy doing everything on Craigslist, but I had no idea they actually had an online television show with episodes about real people and real postings.
Craigslist tv has a lot of episodes that follow real people, their postings, and the encounters they make. It’s interesting how people use Craigslist for more than just housing, cars, furniture, jobs, and even sex (that’s gross though, meeting someone off Craigslist for sex…eww!) There are actually a lot of people out there that use CL to meet people with the same interests as them. Instead of using online dating sites or friendship sites (those exist, right?) these people resort to Craigslist in search of an answer. I’m not appalled by it, yet, I’m more so intrigued by the real people, real postings.
I may meet men off online dating sites every now and then, but I’d never resort to Craigslist in search of friendships. I’d rather use Meetup.com and go to legitimate organized meet-ups that foster a safe environment. But everyone has their own way of finding others to interact with, so I guess Craigslist is great for some people. For instance, this guy below used the site in order to find friends. Check out his video below and then visit the Craigslist blog to see how he is doing now. It’s very interesting seeing how cyber relationships can become real or fizzle out, but at least it was worth giving it a shot.
I have people I’ve meet online over the years that have become close to me in person, but I move so much; so the friendship just fizzles out since I move away. But at least I can say I gave it out a shot and I’m on a journey, which is what an urban nomad is supposed to do. I will never stop journeying, I never stop believing in finding a friend to travel with, and I won’t even stop believing in love. No matter how much I move around and travel, I do believe that one day I will meet an amazing guy out there that totally gets my desire to travel. I may be single now and totally loving it, but it doesn’t mean I’m against the idea of making a new male friend that could possibly be more; you never know until you try!
Both of these videos show that everyone out there in the world is just looking for someone to get them, like understand their personality. We are all just human beings traversing this planet in hopes of running across those who can relate to us and not judge. In the end it’s all about acceptance and finding someone you can relate too, even with your differences.
This is the latest episode of Craigslist tv. Pretty funny!
The best line of this video is when he says he wants a geeky girl, but NO LARPERS! HAHA so…geeky is a must, but don’t you dare wear a costume and do live action-role playing or he will kick your ass!
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
You ever have those moments in life, where you step outside of yourself and say “What the hell was I thinking?” Well last night was one of the moments for me. Of course it’s impossible to step outside of yourself(or is it), but I did have one of those moments where I felt as though my soul jumped out of my body and looked it me, then shook it’s head and walked off. Blame it on my vivid imagination, but seriously, it was one of those moments where I needed to be slapped.
I had the grandiose idea to try my hand at a 30 day free-trial of Adobe Creative Suite. I figured it would be a piece of cake, so I proceeded to download it. In my mind, I thought it would be pretty simple to work. I had taken some graphic design lessons before, and taken into account my natural artistic ability, I assumed I could do a few tutorials and be on my way to eventually being a pro. Well, I was wrong…oh so wrong!
I found some basic tutorials for beginners and couldn’t get anything to turn out the way it was supposed to. I spent about two hours trying to do one simple task. No matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get it together. I got so upset, I just got up and walked away. A lot of things come pretty easy for me in life, such as painting, drawing, acting, academics, writing, and even flirting and attracting me; but digital art is the one thing I can honestly say I don’t have a knack for.
I know that I’m good at a lot of things, but I’m also able to admit that there are things I’m horrible at. So, I’m willing to admit that I suck at using Adobe Creative Suite. I’ve tried before in the past to use it and I just couldn’t get it together. But, I also think it’s due to the fact that I just don’t have a desire internally to become really good at using it. I may be tech savvy in a lot of other areas such as WordPress and even creating simple flyers using MS Word, but being a digital artist is not my area of expertise.
Everyone has their different strengths and weaknesses, which is what makes our society such a beautiful place. One person may be amazing at graphic design, whereas another person might be a great fine artist. Instead of stressing over not being naturally talented at digital design, I decided to just admit defeat and pat myself on the back for my other natural talent. I’m a traditional artist. I’d rather grab the paint, the pencils, the canvas, and let my hand guide the creative direction. I don’t like when I’m not in control on artistic level, which is why using Adobe freaks me out! I literally felt like the world was going to fall apart, but luckily my mom gave me some great advice to calm me down.
It’s okay to admit that I’m not good at graphic design, but I make up for it with my writing and my artwork. Instead of beating myself up over my failed attempt at using Adobe Photoshop, I grabbed my pencils and begin drawing. If I’m not writing, then I’m probably in my room drawing or painting. I have to go to my strength in life. That saves a lot of time and avoids the unnecessary hassle. Of course there are things that people aren’t good at and they should conquer them if they want to, but being a digital artist isn’t my passion. I’d rather be traditional in my approach and keep doing art as a hobby on the side. It keeps me sane, the same way writing on a daily basis keeps me sane.
Yesterday’s confusion and frustration truly reminded me that I’m a writer and a traditional artist. I have a lot of things I’m good at, and a lot of things I’m not good at. But the things I’m good at should be the things I focus on. So there is no point in stressing out over Adobe Photoshop. Instead, I’m going to keep being the best writer I can be for myself and a great artist in my spare time. Digital art is not for me and that’s okay. I love getting all messy and covered with paint and pencil shavings, it’s the messiness that makes creating so much fun!
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
My, my, my…yet again the state of Black dating has hit the media circuits. Usually I prefer to avoid commenting on the media frenzy surrounding Black women and the epidemic facing them in finding potential mates, but I figure I’d speak my opinion. For those of you who may not read a lot of blogs written by Black women, then perhaps you are unaware of the controversial new book by Ralph Richard Banks called Is Marriage for White People?: How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone.
First off, that title is way too long. I’m sure he could have easily shortened it to “Ebony Needs Ivory,” since his book is blaming the state of singleness on Black women and their lack of desire to date outside of their race. Now I must confess and say I haven’t read the book at all, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t been reading the heated arguments made by Black women on other sites and blogs. It also doesn’t mean that I don’t have an opinion on this situation that goes beyond his book. This issue has been around for quite some time, so it’s worth discussing. But I do intend on reading his book, it sounds interesting. A lot of women are upset that he would write a book and seemingly place blame on Black women for being single. He believes that many Black women are close-minded in their dating choices and need to date outside their race in order to find men that are of the same socioeconomic status.
I can understand why a lot of Black women are upset, but I also understand somewhat what this Dr. Bank’s guy is trying to say. Let’s just get one thing straight, I’m Black, but I’m not the “stereotypical” Black woman that is usually depicted. I’ve written blog posts in the past how many people within the Black community I have met have classified me as “uppity,” “acting white,” or simply “weird.” Some, but not all, of the Black men I have encountered usually end up being intimidated by my success and my level of education. Let’s pause there and discuss that briefly. I haven’t even graduated college yet, but to be 20 yrs old and a senior in college seems to scare off a lot of Black men I’ve met that may not be on the same socioeconomic level as me. You’d think it wouldn’t be a big deal, but a lot them are just shocked I’m doing so much with my life at a young age. What do they expect me to do? Be a stereotypical ghetto Black girl with baby daddy drama and no education? Nah, I think I’ll pass on that.
I’m not knocking anyone who does come from that lifestyle track, but that isn’t who I am. I’m extremely well educated, always have been and always will be. I don’t have kids, I haven’t seen all the “Black films” I’m apparently supposed to watch, and I’d rather listen to soulful house music instead of hip-hop. My past experiences in life have deemed me not a “catch” by a good amount of non-college educated Black men I meet, which is why I’ve never limited myself to just Black men. I actually can see where this Dr. Banks guy is coming from, but it doesn’t mean the way he phrased everything is right. Whenever anybody discusses they Black dating “crisis,” they must truly take into account the reality within the Black community.
A lot of Black men end up in prison, dead, or having a criminal past and not being able to be equally competitive in certain career tracks. It’s true we live in a society that is still subject to racial disparity, but some Black men really just need to stop playing the blame game and get it together. I know it’s difficult and Black men have always been a threat to White men in the workforce, but there are a lot of Black men that do have their stuff together and are legit. They hold distinguished degrees and are in positions of power in their respective fields. But usually the guys that are doing so well don’t have time for the negative attitude that some Black women portray, and these men tend not to be the most swag literate.
I personally prefer the intellectual, often geeky guy, over the swag literate guy who most likely can’t captivate my attention. One thing I detest the most is a high level of ignorance in a man. I absolutely am turned off by the guys that may be extremely attractive, but their conversation is ignorant. That goes beyond color for me. Any man of any race can be ignorant, so I’m not one to sit here and say all Black men are ignorant. But the major “crisis” in the Black dating pool comes when we start playing a major blame game and forget to take into account that some people or on different socioeconomic levels than others. Instead of bashing a man because he may not be able to hold an intellectual conversation or not well-educated, simply just shut-up and go mingle with men that are on your level.
I used to be one to complain about all the ignorant guys who would find me sexy and have this desire to know me, but the moment I actually began speaking about more than comedy and looks, they would lose interest and never call me again. It doesn’t too much bother me, because I also cut off men that are ignorant and just not worth my time. There is nothing wrong with realizing someone just isn’t on the same mental level as you and you guys don’t click. But so many Black men and women began bashing each other and playing the blame game, when in reality they need to just not trip over it and take people as they come if they want to. It’s ignorant to just limit yourself to one type of person based upon race, when in actuality it should be based upon personality and even ambition. When it comes to dating and the type of man I like, I don’t base it upon their skin color. I love all types of men as long as they are well-educated, culturally diverse, and fun to be around.
Anytime I’ve ever tried to get with someone from a different lifestyle experience, it never works out. I’ve had plenty of men tell me that the fact I’m well-educated and so successful at a young age is intimidating; they just can’t handle me and everything I’m doing. But that’s quite alright. I know that even in the midst of this Black dating “crisis,” they are still Black men and men of other races out there that are on the same intellectual and socioeconomic level as me. So instead of playing the blame game and complaining about the problem, I’d rather just enjoy being single and keep hope alive that things will change once I graduate and have a whole new network of interactions working in D.C. around working professionals. If you throw yourself in an environment immersed with a diverse amount of people that are on the same intellectual and socioeconomic level then you, then the dating “crisis” wouldn’t be an issue.
In the right environment and the right mindset, a lot of Black women would just be another beautiful Black woman with a Masters degree, not a threat to just “Black men.” Don’t limit yourself to one type of man, but don’t discount Black men either. There are a lot of “good” Black men out there that are well-educated, they just probably aren’t in the club jamming to Lil Wayne and Gucci. Black people are still getting married, they just aren’t in the mainstream stereotypical depictions of Blacks in the media. You will probably find the well-educated Black men in the engineering department or at a bar with their White friends being the token. Instead of chasing after the “thuggish” Black guy who you obviously know isn’t on your level, for that geeky token Black guy. Those guys are some of the coolest Black men out there, trust me, they are pretty awesome. Be calm and love a “geek” that is on your level, instead of going for a guy that you realistically have nothing in common with.
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com
Home & Garden Television is probably one of my favorite networks. It holds a great deal of importance in my life and I’m not ashamed to admit that I watch HGTV every single day. Even if I’m not watching it with my full undivided attention, then it’s probably on in the background and catching a few glances in between my multi-tasking mania.
My favorite thing about HGTV is the wide array of shows and design ideas. Every show offers insightful tips and ideas for creating the perfect space that reflects your personality. I always tell people if I wasn’t a professional writer for a living, then I’d be studying design and in a career immersed in interior design or set design(which can be attributed to my years of experience in theatre.) Designing is a huge passion of mine because it taps into the true essence of my personality; I’m a creative soul with a zest for vibrant colors and sleek design.
I have a great passion for design and love reading design magazines, which is why I’m uber excited that HGTV is debuting their new magazine in October. I watched the HGTV: Making of Our Magazine special and became deeply inspired. You’d think that the design elements would inspire me to jump out there and go pursue a career in design, but in actuality I was inspired on a different level. Watching the making of the magazine reminded me why I have this blog and what my dream job truly is. I want to be an Artistic/Creative director or Editor for a magazine. Either a design magazine or cultural magazine, but the end goal is to eventually start my own magazine.
I’ve written for different magazines (currently I am a contributing writer for Monarch Magazine) and I’ve seen how passionate the editors and owners are about their publication. I too enjoy seeing their passion and love writing for them, but my real dream is to eventually be my own boss and let my unique voice, along with so many other unique writers, be seen in a digital and print publication. My blog, ThinkSoul25: Thoughts of an Urban Nomad, is only the beginning of the things I hope to achieve one day. My blog is the tip of the iceberg on the ideas I have and want to share with the world.
Being an artistic/creative director has been a dream title since I first began writing and being involved with the arts at a young age. Back then I never knew the exact title, but I always knew I loved seeing how things came together and bring forth creative people in order to achieve a common goal. Working with others is something I’ve always done well, especially if there is a unique creative task at hand. But I always ended up being chosen as the designated leader. Whenever it came to do projects in school, I was always the person that stepped up to plate or was just designated by the team to be in charge.
I have a healthy dosage of analytical decision making and spontaneous creativity pumping in my blood. I know how to get the job done, which explains my resume has an extensive list of projects and jobs on it that have me working in a multimedia related leadership capacity. But, I still feel like I have a lot more to do. I want to truly become a beast at publication design and multimedia production, which is why I’ve decided to apply to graduate school for Fall 2012.
I’ve been contemplating applying the past few months and proceeded to contact my professors for letters of recommendations (which I’ve got.) Now that I have the letters of recommendation, the drive, the grades, and the overall skills, I think I’m ready to commit to this decision. My degree in English Writing will be great, but that doesn’t truly speak to who I am. Before I was a writer, I was a visual artist. So going to graduate school for design will give me all the tools I truly need to attain a artistic/creative director role, while simultaneously planning out a strategy on how to start my own magazine.
The decision is already set in stone and I’m excited about the creative projects to come in the near future. It’s crazy to think that my obsession with watching HGTV actually paid off and was the final push I needed to come up with a concrete career decision. So…thank you HGTV, a great source of divine inspiration that speaks to the creative person I am. I’m glad that HGTV teamed up with Hearst and is putting out a magazine that is bound to become my favorite.
Watching the making of the magazine was the last major push I needed to admit to myself what I really want out of life and how I will always be a creative woman with a zest for design, the arts, and writing.
I know I haven’t blogged the past few days, but now I’m back and have lots to chat about in the next few days. If you’ve been reading a lot of my latest blog posts, then you’ll know that I was getting ready to move. Well, I moved! We finally moved in on Saturday and our place is beautiful. It’s the type of place where you just want to sit in front of our fireplace and reminisce about the old days. It’s one of those storytelling pieces and it gives the living room a lot of character.
It’s a cozy apartment and it’s very spacious. I’m living with my mom and dad still until I graduate in May, but my room feels like a studio. I have a door that goes into the main bathroom, a walk in closet, and to big windows that allow a lot of light. I like the light, but I prefer darkness. I woke up this morning because of the sunshine shining through my window and reminded myself to get up and install my curtain rods. I like sleeping in a bat cave.
I’ve moved probably over a hundred times. That number isn’t exaggerated, I have lived in a lot of different apartments, townhouses, and houses. My family has become a pro at moving and we function off an assembly line technique. One person at the truck, one at the first flight of stairs, and one person (me) to take stuff up to the third level. It’s a simple system and it makes thing go quicker, but this time we decided to do something we have never done in all the 20 years of moving; we hired a set of movers.
The movers were provided through U-Haul’s website and it ended up being this really short Black guy and this 6’4” African guy. My mom had me stay upstairs for the first part of the move and
flirt help the guys out. They were pretty nice guys and I had a fun time talking to the tall one. We only had them for 2 hours, but we made sure to put all the major heavy furniture in the front of the truck. At one point the guy carried a heavy headboard by himself and I was like “Wow, you are a superhero!” It was very fun watching two strong men lift furniture and get all sweaty, great eye candy.
Overall, the eye candy was great and the move went swell. Even though we had to go back to storage and load up the rest of our furniture, then unload it on our own the second trip, it was still a success. The only thing that sucks is we don’t have Internet yet, but my brother and sister-n-law live in the same complex as us. We got an apartment here first and signed a lease, then they got an apartment here a few weeks later. It’s pretty cool! Now we get to hang out all the time and work out together. I’m glad we live close by and I’m happy to be using that awesome fitness center. Can’t wait!
©Jasmine McGee.ThinkSoul25. http://thinksoul25.com