I’ve been single for little under a year now. I haven’t gotten into an exclusive relationship, but I’ve gone on my fair share of dates with different men. Every guy comes in a different package, whether it be tall, short, skinny, muscular, Black, White, etc. I’m not insanely picky when it comes to the type of guy I like to date, or at least have the potential to be friends with and possibly more. But there is one thing I absolutely can’t stand, a pitiful mama’s boy.
When I think of a Mama’s boy, I immediately think of Heffer from Rocko’s Modern Life. In one episode called “Mama’s Boy” Rocko tried to prove to Heffer that he was totally incapable of taking care of himself unless his mom was there. Heffer didn’t believe Rocko at first, but then he wanted to prove Rocko wrong. So he moved out on his own, but that didn’t work out. At the end of the day Heffer would always be a mama’s boy. It was just a fictional depiction of that dreaded scenario, but I’ve actually dated a guy that was a mama’s boy, and it was horrible!
Every decision he had to make was to be ran by his mother first. We actually never even went on a date alone. Granted, we were in high school and I was 16 and he was 15, but still…we never had any alone time. Our first date involved his mom picking me up from my house, and then we headed to the playground with his mom and his seven little brothers and sisters. The entire date consisted of us watching his siblings, and his mom constantly staring at us and asking him to get suntan lotion (there was a pool at the playground, to give everyone lunches, and to come sit next to her. It was just creepy! Then when we did get a moment alone and walked somewhere else in the park, we had probably 5 minutes to ourselves before she came over and asked him to carry her purse while she grabbed the kids.
I think the final straw for me is when we went to homecoming together and she was our limo driver. We had to spend the entire evening with her, and she wouldn’t even let us sit next to each other. Every time I hung out with that guy, his mom always tagged along and he wasn’t even tripping over it. He just accepted it, and tried to make it work. Well, I couldn’t take it anymore. So I called him up one school evening and dumped him. I wasn’t going to date a man who was so attached to his mother. I understood we were in high school, but we still deserved some freedom. Till this day he still is a mama’s boy, and it’s such a sad sight to see.
Of course I want a man who loves and respects his mother, but he doesn’t need to be so codependent on her. I’ve met men that are in their late twenties that still cling onto every word their mother says, and a majority of their decisions are based upon mother’s tongue. Some men don’t know how to stop that unhealthy cycle, but I had no idea that there were men well into their 30s who still acted like that. Today on Dr. Drew’s Life Changers, which comes on at 3pm, we meet a man who is the ultimate mama’s boy. Today’s episode explores the sick reality behind being an absolute mama’s boy, and how it can affect having healthy relationships with women. I can’t stand it when some men want me to do everything for them as if I was there mother, that’s just too needy.
Dr. Drew’s Lifechangers always has some great topics and I watch both episodes everyday at 3 and 3:30pm. If you know anyone that is a mama’s boy, then you really ought to check out today’s episode and maybe learn some tips on how to tell them the truth about their sickening relationship. It’s okay to love your mom, but you don’t need to talk to her all day and make all your decisions based upon her. That’s just sad!
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