The “No Pressure” Date

I haven’t been on a date in forever a month, there just haven’t been any guys that have caught my eye. I’ve flirted with some cool guys out and about, but most of them end up being on the short side. I enjoy engaging in conversation with random people, but it’s rare that I’ll meet a guy that perks my interests. Then on the flip-side, when I do meet a guy who catches me eye, he ends up putting so much pressure and thinking down the line to our wedding. It’s fine to think like that in your mind, but don’t say it on the first date. That’s creepy!

I’ve had my fair of great, good, okay, horrible, and “please can I go home?” dates. One of the worst dates was when the guy showed up wearing leather gloves and then we hung out a second time, and the leather gloves were present. He was this tall light skin guy with a big fro, but he was not the brightest and had a passion for wearing leather gloves in 80 degree weather. I asked him to take them off and his hands were so soft and gorgeous (probably because the leather gloves protect them) but he wouldn’t stop wearing them with jerseys and baggy jeans. A hot mess! I can’t stand when a guy shows up to a date looking crappy. I put my best out there and flaunt my curves in a tasteful way, so they should step up their game and look like they care. If you’re trying to get somewhere, don’t look a hot mess like this little guy over there. Haha this picture is so wrong, but some guys think like that on a first date, a shame!

Everyone has had their share of good and bad dates, but then there are those dates that stand out in your mind. Today happened to be one of those dates that I kept thinking about after it ended. I ended up meeting this really cool guy offline. The site we met on is okay but a lot of the guys on their that hit on me are old school players in their 40s wearing white suits and chilling with pit bulls, seriously, it’s bad. I usually ignore most of my messages and don’t bother talking to people, but this guy ended up being really nice and age appropriate (26.)

We talked for a while on the site, then became buddies on Facebook. It’s not an official association until confirmed on Facebook, that’s when you know you’re making progress.  We chatted for awhile back and forth, he even subtly asked me out but I guess I missed the hints. I was slacking. I was starting to like talking to this guy and chatting on FB, but then I wasn’t sure if he liked me. Finally, I had to say something. I ended up telling him I thought he was cool and then we cleared up the confusion (I wasn’t sure if he liked me, but he did does.) After the brief clear up, we exchange numbers and then finally went on a date today.

I was excited about seeing him, but we discussed a “no pressure” agreement on Facebook. Well, it wasn’t really an agreement but rather an understanding that we are both single, casually dating, and not trying to rush into anything. I don’t like to sit and place pressure on a lot of things, especially when it comes to men. I’d rather just let it flow and see what happens, but at least be upfront about my feelings. Since we had this no pressure thing going on, I came into the date with the mindset that I’m going to totally be myself and not stress.

I’ve been on so many dates, that I’m at the point where I don’t care what happens. I basically be myself on full swing and let it flow. I’ve never been the type of chick to hide my personality for a man or “calm it down.” If you’re going to like me, then you better know what’s up. I’m random, quirky, touchy-feely, very open, and have an odd yet charming sense of humor. I could have easily gone on my date today and tried to be this proper high maintenance chick who has it all together, but I don’t…that’s NOT me. I hate when a man feels bad because he takes a girl to a restaurant he really can’t afford, but he wants to impress her, except he ends up putting himself in a financial rough spot. That’s not cool.

My date had told me he didn’t have a lot of money on him at the moment, but he still wanted to chill. Instead of tripping, I just said hey 1.) Barnes and Noble 2.) Starbucks and 3.) Great conversation.  That’s all I really need for a first date. You can find out a lot about a guy by hanging out with him at a bookstore and sipping on Starbucks. I had a great time getting to know my date and there wasn’t this lingering pressure to impress each other. I was being myself and he was being him, which made him even sexier in the end.

We ended up chilling at the bookstore and then walking around this lovely lake and sitting for awhile talking. Honestly, that was the best moment of my date. It was beautiful just being outside and getting to know him. Sitting close and flirting, me singing the Family Matters theme song, doing the Charleston (told you I’m silly) and having him gently put his arms around me. It was one of the best dates I’ve been on in a long time thanks to the “no pressure” understanding.

The date went very well and the “no pressure” thing made me like him even more. Weird right? I had such a great time and we had this sensational personality bond. I’m looking forward to hanging out with him again, no pressure, and just having a great time. I’m not tripping on the details of whether we could be more or not, it was just one date. Yet, I will say I’d be an idiot to pass up flirting with him, laughing with him, and getting to know his charming and sexy self. He’s legit.

I’m digging this entire no pressure thing, yet I enjoy the fact I can still be open and say “Hey, I like you a lot. You’re funny, charming, wise, sexy, and tall.” Seriously, he was 6’3”, that alone was hot. It was nice getting hugged by a tall guy, it felt nice being in his arms but no pressure!!! LOL I’m just getting to know him, but I can say today was one of the best dates I’ve had in a long time. I was actually a little sad when the date ended and I didn’t want to let go of the embrace. He was such a cool guy, like I could totally at least see us being buddies and no pressure on whether something more happens. I hope to see him a lot more and just have fun hanging out, no stress and pressure needed. I hope he feels the same way too. :)

©Jasmine McGee

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Ghost Perks, Airstrikes, & Pure Pwnage

Let’s have some gamer talk. In the world of video games you’ve got stone-age, bronze-age, iron-age, and pwn-age. Pure pwnage (pure ownage) is the ultimate level for any gamer. It’s the point in a round of Call of Duty or Gears of War when you are just totally serving up some pure pwnage.

It can take some time to concentrate and be a lethal master of pwnage, but it’s not impossible. On a good day, with lots of concentration, I’m able to get a decent kill count of up to 27 on Black Ops. Not the best, but not the worst; I’m average.

I’m a gamer by nature and love playing games, but some people are Call of Duty connoisseurs. They live, breath, eat, and dream about COD. I’ve never been the one to talk trash and dish out major pwnage (unless you really piss me off,) but some people are all about pure pwnage. Some people are all about relying on the ghost perks, airstrikes, nepalm strikes, and stabbing folks in the back (I’m guilty, I love doing that on Black Ops!)

I’ve heard the trash talking on the mic (mine is muted, but sometimes its fun to listen to others banter) and I often wonder if a serious gamer actually talked like that 24/7. Well my wonder has been put to rest. I ran across the web series “Online Gamer” and began cracking up. The show is produced by Reckless Tortuga and it follows the life of an hardcore gamer. He lives and breathes on Modern Warfare 2, 360, ghost perks, airstrikes, and pure pwnage. The show came out a looooong time ago, but I’ve met some other gamers who have never heard of it.

“Online Gamer” is one of those shows you can’t help to watch, it’s off the wall rude and hilarious. The guy is a total jerk and can’t seem to separate reality from Call of Duty, it’s a mess! I’ve watch a lot of the episodes so far and I must say the release of Black Ops is by far the funniest. The dude can’t control his desire to play Black Ops and he works at a game store where the shipment just arrived. He is such a jerk to everyone who pre-ordered and would literally make people buy it on 360, even if they request the Ps3 copy. He’s a class A jerk, but it’s so true to how some of those hardcore gamers are.

Check out the first two episodes of “Online Gamer” and be sure to take some time to catch up. If you’re a gamer like me, then you’ll find yourself relating to some of the issues he faces. The ring of death on his 360 is probably one thing that many people can relate to. My 360 never had the ring of death, but I know some people who had it and they were vehemently pissed off. They had to play their Ps3 and go on a pure pwnage rampage. Sometimes in life, you just got to pwn folks…it’s the gamers code.

©Jasmine McGee

ThinkSoul25

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It’s Okay, You’re Awkward…I Get It

I’ve never been the type of person to exactly follow social protocol. I’m far from a social assassin like Mr. Larry David, but I’m usually off into my own world. Sometimes I over analyze basic situations and other times I just completely “go for it.” Yet, my undeniable efforts always end up in a funny and random conversation.

I remember about two weeks ago I was at Target buying Fight Night Champion. I was getting as a gift for my brother, just wanted to do something nice for my big bro. It was really crowded and seemed everyone in the electronics section was waiting for some type of help. Finally after waiting, my mom went and found this short but cute light skin guy. He grabbed the game and handed it to me. My mom decided to walk off and told me to “handle it.” Whenever something needs to be done or a situation looks like it requires one of us to deal with it, my mom and me will simply give each other a quirky look and say “handle it.”

Well, needless to say I “handled it.” I ended up meeting the guy at the counter and I could feel myself towering over him. He was 5’6”, so compared to my 6ft frame, he looked like a child. We had this awkward moment while he scanned the game, then he said “I need your ID.” A normal person would have probably handed it to him and call it a day, but not me. I began asking him why it was so important and randomly talking about my height. He complimented my height and said “well little girls are getting taller.” LMAO wtf? Little girls are getting taller? I had no idea, maybe I should observe the ratio of heights more often (yea right.)

Long story short, we ended up bantering back and forth in a flirtatious yet awkward conversation. I told him he was short and then told him I was 20 and I don’t see why he needed an ID. Then he asked me how old he looked and I guessed 25, he had a grown man face on a small frame. Come to find out, he was actually 19. We bantered some more, laughing, flirting (nobody was in line, the people that needed help seemed to linger around televisions) and then I ended our conversation by telling him my plans for the night to play video games. It was just more awkward random conversation, but he was able to hang with me. I met up with my mom and she said “What was all that?” I laughed and said, “yeah, that happened.” She began laughing and replied, “Oh, it happened, can’t take you anywhere without you chatting up some guy.”

I have this habit of randomly getting in humorous conversations with strangers. I remember one time chatting up a white guy at JC Penney’s and talking about the beauty of black women and their bodacious butts. Haha, that was a great conversation! I suppose in some ways I’m slightly awkward but in a cool way. My theory is life is too short to always wonder what you should or shouldn’t say. I’m not awkward to the point where it’s rude, but I do like to engage in conversation and use my witty sense of humor to charm people.

Being awkward at times is a gift and a curse for some people, but “Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl” truly shows the ups and major downs of being awkward 24/7. A friend of mine sent this show to me on Facebook and after watching it, I realized I’m slightly awkward. I’m always finding myself in interesting situations that can be described as “awkward.” Yet “Misadventures of an Awkward Black Girl” is the epitome of being awkward and does it in a hilarious way. It’s one thing to be awkward and random, but on top of that being far from the “normal” black girl; now that makes for a hilarious series of events.

It would be hard to sit here and describe the show in detail. I mean you’ve got the baby voice nigga, the awkward white guy, an evil office chick, an awkward Indian girl, and a gay guy that is racially insensitive. All those make for a great web series that shed light on being awkward. I happened to watch the show with my mom in one sitting and we both could relate to everything. There’s nothing wrong with being awkward, own up to it. The same goes for people that are jerks, if you’re a jerk/dick then own up to it. Lol commit to the title!

If you’re awkward or appreciate awkwardness, then check out Issa Rae’s “Misadventures of an Awkward Black Girl.”

©Jasmine McGee

ThinkSoul25

http://thinksoul25.com